Blade wrote:I don't see the link between "men bothering women/making them feel threatened by asking them for sex" and "treating all men as possible rapists".
I think you just don't understand the issue. Which is a part of the issue itself.
OK, now I
know you're trolling. The "you might be a rapist" is literally Rebecca Watson's entire argument. Without that, there's no part of it that makes any sense on any level. She's uncomfortable supposedly
entirely because she suspects he might be a rapist. That's it. That's literally the whole thing.
If there's no implied fear that the man is about to commit a sexual assault in what is in reality a very public and secure place, then there's no reason given why she'd be uncomfortable. Schrodinger's Rapist is literally the only reason given. And Schrodinger's Rapist is, very obviously, an extremely demeaning assumption to make.
But beyond that, look at the equivocation you made here:
Blade wrote:men bothering women/making them feel threatened by asking them for sex
The man in question did not ask her for sex. Let me repeat that, because apparently you are a dumbass:
HE DID NOT ASK HER FOR SEX. He said he thought she was interesting and asked her to join him for coffee. There may, or may not, have been an implied offer of sex. And sex may or may not have been a subsequent offer had she joined him for coffee. But the explicit offer was coffee, not sex.
So what we have hear is a man making a good faith, non-sexual offer. And then the woman decides that regardless of what he actually
said, what he
actually meant was that he was offering her sex. Which may or may not be true. But the prospect that it
might be true bothered her. In short: she assumed the man was lying. The prospect that an offer of coffee might actually be an offer of coffee and nothing more or less didn't even cross her mind. And then she substituted an entirely different offer that had not in fact crossed his lips, and decided that the
entirely imaginary offer was crude and demeaning to women.
That's insane. That's completely and utterly insane. There is literally nothing a man can say or not say at any point in their lives that will get past a filter that total. Because what he is being condemned for is not anything he actually said or did, but what Rebecca Watson
imagines he may have been thinking at the time.
So yes. It's fucking demeaning to men. The
entire argument is demeaning to men. It's telling men that they can't say things that aren't sexual because we know that really men are all pigs and thinking sexual things and even having their lips move while passing totally mundane and non-sexual statements is obscene because it reminds us that they are liars and rapists at heart.
We aren't talking about someone saying that people shouldn't use hyper sexualized language with people they don't know. We're talking about someone claiming that men shouldn't use
any language with women they don't know because
anything they say is just a code for perversion and objectification of women. Again and still, the actual sentence was:
"Don't take this the wrong way, but I find you really interesting, and I would like to talk more."
That is what is being condemned as objectification and over sexualization of women. It's baffling and insane. And when you substitute actions like "badgering women for sex" for what was actually being condemned, you change the entire situation. If someone was actually badgering a woman for sex, that would be wrong. That would be harassment. But he didn't fucking do that. And that is why Rebecca Watson is wrong instead.
-Username17