I'm sorry if you're feeling a little piled on. Losing your job sucks, and I'm sorry to hear that you're in a bad situation. I hope you find a new position that you like better and you're happier.
While it can feel like people are trying to be mean to you, I don't think that's the case at all. Keep in mind that we're only responding based on what you tell us and sometimes the context isnt' clear. Take, for example the following two quotes:
Shrapnel wrote: So, would going in, saying sorry, offering to pay to replace the broken machine and beggin for my job back work? I'm totally willing to sacrifice silly things like "dignity" and "pride", becuase you can't lose what you don't have.
There was nothing in the first statement to indicate that you wouldn't ask for your job back if people thought you had a chance to succeed. I'd guess you wanted to hear that it would be worth doing - that it could be successful. Everyone who has responded has made their response only on the things you've self-reported. We'd expect that you're biased to present the facts in the way that makes you look good - few people deliberately try to make themselves look worse in stories about the things they did. If the consensus is that you're creating (or at least contributing) to your own problems, you should be willing to do some serious self-reflection.Shrapnel wrote:I was joking about begging for my job back. I'm not that pathetic.
Especially if you're serious about having Asperger's, you might consider that you're not particularly sensitive to the social needs of your fellow citizens. If you lack the empathy to avoid social awkwardness naturally, you're going to have to apply your brain to learning a bunch of rules that won't necessarily make sense to you. So while it may feel like we're putting you down, that's really not the case. We're trying to offer constructive criticism to help you in your future endeavors, whatever they might be.
If you get nothing else from this conversation I hope you'll come away with this: There are no good excuses. Most people don't actually care why something happened, but if it inconveniences them, they would like a sincere apology. Rather than explaining why it couldn't be helped you should acknowledge their situation. The explanation should not be offered as a defense if it is included.
Bad Example
I'm sorry I'm late. My car wouldn't start so I called my friend and he gave me a ride, but he came twenty minutes after he said he would.
Better Example
I'm sorry I'm late. I had car trouble and I'm really sorry that I let you down. Is there anything I can do to make up for this? I can stay late or cover your next shift.