It's Personal...

Blasted · Post by **Blasted** » Sun Apr 14, 2013 11:30 pm

Alrighty,
So my LTR dissolved with a whimper earlier this year and sometime sooner rather than later I'm going to get back in the dating game. Having not been there in a decade and being somewhat less flush with cash than I was a few months ago, I'm after ideas for decent, cheap dates. Any suggestions?

Count Arioch the 28th · Mon Apr 15, 2013 4:13 am

Does your city have an arboretum? That is one of the places I took bitches when I dated. Bitches love trees.

Keep tabs on local fairs and events. Crafty stuff tends to work the best, as well as food-related festivals. Everyone loves food.

And make sure to not get emotionally attached when you are dating. Most people are shitty.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 4:52 am

Count Arioch the 28th wrote:Most people are shitty.

"98% of everything is crap" this includes people.

Maxus · Post by **Maxus** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 5:03 am

Anything involving seeing stuff for free.

Down here, Downtown hosts the Art Walk, where various art galleries and so on are open at night for folks to walk through and circulate and so on.

Count's right--Bitches love trees. Find out parks. Google your own city to see what attractions it has, little out-of-the-way things you might not know about.

Meikle641 · Post by **Meikle641** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 6:41 am

I also recommend star gazing. Stars are fucking cool.

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 8:47 pm

Amen to that.

Orion · Post by **Orion** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 9:22 pm

I recommend against dating; it's inefficient in both time and money. Join gaming groups or cycling groups or whatever, from meetup.com or something. Costs are usually minimal. Meet interesting people and then have sex with them.

Blasted · Post by **Blasted** » Mon Apr 15, 2013 11:41 pm

Thanks for the suggestions.
I'm not starting dating for the sex, but for the emotional attachment.
So more starting a relationship, than dating per se, but dates happen anyway

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 16, 2013 1:57 am

Just be very cautious about who you allow yourself to get emotionally attached to. A woman can only hurt you if you care about her.

SlyJohnny · Post by **SlyJohnny** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 2:48 am

Ignore that. Take risks and face the consequences. It's impossible to completely protect yourself, and in any event, you'll wind up getting hurt by the fact that you're alone and are short on meaningful connections with fellow human beings.

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 16, 2013 3:05 am

I am just saying that starting a relationship without dating is like hiring without a job interview. It might end up working out, but you're taking a needless risk.

Whipstitch · Post by **Whipstitch** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 3:17 am

I wouldn't even call it a risk, but rather a certainty. All relationships are fucking transient, full stop. Even if everything goes right your bff or wife or you or your kid will totes die. That's sad and stuff but unless you're really myopically fucktarded or have clinical brain problems it is still totally worth it the vast majority of the time.

SlyJohnny · Post by **SlyJohnny** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 3:22 am

Count Arioch the 28th wrote:I am just saying that starting a relationship without dating is like hiring without a job interview. It might end up working out, but you're taking a needless risk.

Ohhh, sorry, I thought you were myopically advocating being hesitant to ever love anyone rather than saying get to know people before you start planning your life around them. I'm totally on board with that. Dates are a good means of slowly getting to know someone.

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 16, 2013 3:55 am

... I think this is the first time I explained myself and the other person didn't start screaming LOUDER about what a terrible person I was. I don't know how to react.

Orion · Post by **Orion** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 5:41 pm

How is dating a requirement for getting to know someone? It's perfectly possible to get to know someone in the comfort of your own home.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 5:45 pm

See, My trouble is getting to the speaking to people in general point, as well as segueing the discussion into sex....

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 16, 2013 5:49 pm

My problem is that the only women I know that don't want to make me vomit until I die are gay, in committed relationships, or otherwise not available.

Orion · Post by **Orion** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 6:46 pm

Count, did you mean "make me want to vomit"? Because what you wrote is... disturbingly specific.

Kaelik · Post by **Kaelik** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 7:00 pm

I still can't tell if the the existence of these women makes him want to vomit until he dies, or if the women in question would prefer if he vomited to death.

sabs · Post by **sabs** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 7:21 pm

Not only would they prefer it.. I believe that is precisely what they want, for Count to vomit to death.

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 7:26 pm

Orion wrote:How is dating a requirement for getting to know someone? It's perfectly possible to get to know someone in the comfort of your own home.

Call me old fashioned, but I prefer to know someone by talking to them and interacting with them in person, not through the Holonet.

The last time I got to know someone through the internet it turned out she was actually not a she, but some sort of unidentifiable, sexless mass of carbon. Or at least, that's what he/she/it looked like...

Kaelik · Post by **Kaelik** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 7:33 pm

Shrapnel wrote:
Orion wrote:How is dating a requirement for getting to know someone? It's perfectly possible to get to know someone in the comfort of your own home.
Call me old fashioned, but I prefer to know someone by talking to them and interacting with them in person, not through the Holonet.

The last time I got to know someone through the internet it turned out she was actually not a she, but some sort of unidentifiable, sexless mass of carbon. Or at least, that's what he/she/it looked like...

I think he means that you can invite the person into your house too, and get to know them in our house, instead of out on the town.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Tue Apr 16, 2013 10:37 pm

Or we're just dealing with different definitions of dating. Apparently there is a generation which defines "a man and woman go see a movie and have dinner" as a date, regardless of romantic interest on either or both parts. By which definition, I've gone on a few dates since my last relationship. By my generation's definition, however, they sure as fuck did not feel like dates, more social flailing performed in the hope of attaining physical affection.

Maxus · Post by **Maxus** » Wed Apr 17, 2013 2:07 am

I want to choke one of my coworkers.

We've had two employees go recently--one retired, one got fired--so This One Guy is pulling trash.

I'm a janitor, by the way.

This dude is the fastest and best worker in the world as long as someone's with him.

If he's alone, he slows down, makes phonecalls on cubicle phones and other shit.

Every.

Time.

I'm a very amiable person. I really am.

But the boss declared no one can leave until This One Guy's done. And we're not allowed to help him.

And this makes me want to commit physical violence on This One Guy. And the boss, too, while I'm on the assault spree

I'm going to try to talk to him tomorrow--me and him get along fine personally, but seriously. I like getting through and getting the hell out of Dodge on Friday nights. And if This One Guy's gonna be the bottleneck, I'll at least attempt to fix it

Count Arioch the 28th · Wed Apr 17, 2013 2:11 am

Maybe that's the point of this; he wants you guys to wait until he's asleep, put bars of soap in your socks, and beat the crap out of him so he straightens up and flies right...