It's Personal...

Maxus · Post by **Maxus** » Wed Jul 06, 2016 6:19 pm

RobbyPants wrote:Fuck yes! Just got a job offer! I still have to talk it over with my wife before I accept, but the compensation was better than I was expecting.

This is a bit of a new chapter in my life as this is the first time I've ever gone looking for a new job on my own, while still employed. In the past, changes of employment have been pretty much solely driven by college starting up in the fall or the company closing its doors.

Awesome, man. Congratulations!

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Wed Jul 06, 2016 7:43 pm

Best of luck, RP!

Leress · Post by **Leress** » Thu Jul 07, 2016 10:43 pm

Good luck, Robby!

virgil · Post by **virgil** » Fri Jul 08, 2016 6:32 am

I had actually been considering going to the BLM protest today in Dallas, but my wife suggested otherwise because she disagrees with their methods/style. Kind of glad I listened to her right now. As I'm demographically awesome (able, cishet white male, 18-49), I've tried to avoid even thinking of whether a group is protesting correctly, especially for the kind of cause BLM aims for. It feels more acceptable for her to have that opinion for the dual reasons of her having more protest experience than I and because of her position of being native; and you can make a legit argument that they have it worse.

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 1:30 am

I committed perjury today! Good times.

TiaC · Post by **TiaC** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 5:08 am

You probably don't want to post that to a public forum.

RobbyPants · Post by **RobbyPants** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 11:53 am

I'd ask for details, because it sounds like there's a story there, but I think I have to agree with TiaC, here.

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 9:42 pm

Well, the details are complicated, but it wasn't really perjury. I just feel better calling it that. Like how someone might think of themselves as an outlaw maverick for jay-walking or wearing mixed fabrics.

Shiritai · Post by **Shiritai** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 9:51 pm

Shrapnel wrote:Well, the details are complicated, but it wasn't really perjury. I just feel better calling it that. Like how someone might think of themselves as an outlaw maverick for jay-walking or wearing mixed fabrics.

So if you were under oath, and said that you committed perjury, then you'd have committed perjury?

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Wed Jul 13, 2016 10:18 pm

... maybe?

Fwib · Post by **Fwib** » Thu Jul 14, 2016 12:03 am

Are we talking "...technically telling the truth, the best kind of telling the truth..." ?

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Thu Jul 14, 2016 3:15 am

Well, the actual truth is that I filled out an application for a three-day YMCA trial membership for my dad, and I signed it as him, for him. So, I'm not really sure if that counts as perjury, but I am fairly certain the law won't care all that much. It just makes me feel cooler to call it a crime, because I have so little.

Kaelik · Post by **Kaelik** » Thu Jul 14, 2016 5:35 am

Shrapnel wrote:Well, the actual truth is that I filled out an application for a three-day YMCA trial membership for my dad, and I signed it as him, for him. So, I'm not really sure if that counts as perjury, but I am fairly certain the law won't care all that much. It just makes me feel cooler to call it a crime, because I have so little.

If your father gave you permission to sign on his behalf, then that is his signature, and you didn't do anything wrong at all. I have a computer program that signs for me, and my secretary can do it. When I worked as a law clerk I could sign orders for a judge whenever I wanted.

sendaz · Post by **sendaz** » Thu Jul 14, 2016 6:22 am

Indeed, as your Dad knew you were doing it for him you were just his representative for all practical purposes.

Now if you hire a couple of hookers to show up at his gym as his 'personal' trainers.....

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Fri Jul 22, 2016 10:27 pm

AH fails a saving throw: https://www.reddit.com/r/Lovecraft/comm ... the_great/

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Sat Jul 23, 2016 9:38 pm

My collection of 1930s curiosa: http://imgur.com/gallery/ZA4Z3

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Wed Jul 27, 2016 9:11 pm

You know what's a highly effective way to wake up?

Look at your phone and see a bunch of interactions on facebook page posts you didn't make, on a page you didn't make, that were boosted for $75.

Bank has been contacted, facebook has been contacted, and any account I have that shared its password (yeah, yeah, I know...) with my facebook account, including my facebook account has had it's password changed.

Leress · Post by **Leress** » Fri Jul 29, 2016 11:19 pm

I got my Appian Analyst credentials. Next I will be going for my Designer credentials.

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Fri Jul 29, 2016 11:20 pm

i don't know what any of that means, but i guess congratulations are in order here? O.o

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Sat Aug 06, 2016 8:40 pm

Welp, I've been taking great advantage of Obamacare this year

Early this year (late last year?) I finally got off my ass to see my assigned doctor. That's led to finally talking to a counselor about my potential depression (recognized by friends who'd been diagnosed, but I'd never seen anyone about it) and being diagnosed with dysthymia (basically, default mood is just south of average) and prescribed low dose meds to combat that with GREAT FUCKING EFFECTIVENESS.

Like, holy shit. A week or two after the prescription it was like "What the fuck is this euphoria!? Oh, wait, this is just what normal people feel like at default. Holy shit." People close to me and my counselor have noticed a big change, so that's awesome.

It's also led to me finally asking my GP about transitioning. Met with him about a month ago to discuss, and go over the fact that, in keeping with me making everything more complicated, I'm genderqueer and my ideal body is basically a hermaphrodite. He said he'd do some research and we'd meet back in a month.

We met back last Thursday, and I was astonished. I must be incredibly lucky living in California, because I didn't have to jump through any hoops, I didn't have to talk to some unknown psychiatrist, I just talked with my GP a bit more after he'd done some research, and I got my prescription.

So I started hormone transition on Thursday (good thing about early morning doctor appointments- you can pick up the prescription afterwards and start pretty much immediately). I now take three pills a day and I'm fucking ecstatic about it, because it's solving my depression and taking control of my body.

...though, looking at the expected results of gender transition, and my current body shape, I'm going to look like a woman from a Butch Hartman cartoon character since I already have ridiculously large hips and the hormones are going to basically push my fat distribution downwards...

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Sat Aug 06, 2016 9:00 pm

That is good to read.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Sat Aug 06, 2016 9:03 pm

Oh, and the best part is that Obamacare has completely covered all of it. I haven't paid for any of my appointments, the generic Effexor I was put on for dysthymia, the generic Symbalta that replaced it when I asked about the frequent headaches I was getting, or my transition hormones.

Fucking thank you, Obama.

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Sat Aug 06, 2016 9:51 pm

Welcome to a system of properly working healthcare.

DSMatticus · Post by **DSMatticus** » Sun Aug 07, 2016 4:34 am

Stahlseele wrote:Welcome to a system of properly working healthcare.

I feel the need to append almost to that. It's good, especially for people who can't afford healthcare and desperately need it (so, you know, only a fuckton of people), but it ain't perfect. My biggest gripe, as an Ohioan, is the method they use to calculate subsidies (disclaimer: this info may be slightly out of date, what with how rapidly and frequently the healthcare marketplace has changed) - our bronze plans tend to be priced very close to our silver plans, which means that if you are a relatively young and healthy but ultimately broke college student or recent college graduate with a sub-optimal employment situation (which describes a fuckton of the people I know), the sort of person who might downgrade to a bronze plan in an attempt to better juggle your tenuous finances, you are going to find yourself hurting more than is arguably justifiable. I mean, I guess that comes with the tradeoff that it's cheaper to upgrade to a silver plan, but "having slightly better healthcare" isn't really the priority when you're trying to pay off piles of student debt. That's a pretty weak complaint, but hey, most of the complaints you can make about the ACA are pretty weak.

Prak wrote:It's also led to me finally asking my GP about transitioning. Met with him about a month ago to discuss, and go over the fact that, in keeping with me making everything more complicated, I'm genderqueer and my ideal body is basically a hermaphrodite. He said he'd do some research and we'd meet back in a month.

We met back last Thursday, and I was astonished. I must be incredibly lucky living in California, because I didn't have to jump through any hoops, I didn't have to talk to some unknown psychiatrist, I just talked with my GP a bit more after he'd done some research, and I got my prescription.

So I started hormone transition on Thursday (good thing about early morning doctor appointments- you can pick up the prescription afterwards and start pretty much immediately). I now take three pills a day and I'm fucking ecstatic about it, because it's solving my depression and taking control of my body.

While I totally approve of you and your's doctor decision to start hormone therapy (not that my medical or personal opinion means jackshit), I don't think it would hurt to ask your GP if he could refer you to a specialist (provided it would be covered by insurance, anyway). Not for the purposes of "making sure it's the right decision" or otherwise second guessing you, but because I have no doubt hormone therapy is going to throw all kinds of new and exciting curveballs at you that a specialist will be better equipped to prepare you for. And if you feel like you're getting less of the preparation and more of the second guessing (which I doubt), it's not like you have to keep seeing them. But even good decisions can be tough ones, and if the tools are available then why not do some availing?

Side note: if by hermaphorite you mean "female body, male genitals," that's probably the best place to want to be. SRS is a nightmare list of tradeoffs, and while it's absolutely the correct decision for some people, I think it's easy - if depressing - to admit that people who will be happy with their body without SRS are getting a much better deal. I mean, not as good a deal as someone like me, who's biggest complaint with their body is that they're about a standard deviation below median height. Woohoo, privilege. Man, looking that up just made me realize how short I actually am. Fuckin' ouch.

Anyway tl;dr have a very heartfelt congratulations. It's nice hearing positive anecdotes about something that can be so difficult, and I'm genuinely happy for you.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Sun Aug 07, 2016 5:06 am

That's a good point. I'm meeting back with my doctor in a month for a follow up, so I'll ask if he's got a specialist he can recommend me too. He's a good, pretty laid back doctor, so I'm pretty sure he won't feel slighted at all by my asking for someone who can tell me about some of the minutiae.

I should actually probably go back to Covered CA to make sure I still qualify for my Silver plan... things have changed somewhat since I signed up (though I'm only working minimum wage 20ish hours a week)..

By hermaphrodite, I mean the fantasy/sci-fi meaning, since the medical meaning is now the meaning of the better term intersex. Basically, female body and both sets of genitals. For awhile I thought that SRS was basically off the table, since I wanted to add rather than trade. Then I learned that it's totally possible to do vaginoplasty without using the penis, and was ready to consider that somewhere down the line. While I was between appointments, I did some more research of my own and asked an SRS specialist, and they pointed out that there are various muscles and shit down there that would make just adding a vagina near impossible. So, yeah, I'm pretty much just looking at getting the SRS and maybe a boob job at some point in the future if I decide I want more, and otherwise holding off and hoping I live long enough for robot or custom grown replacement bodies to be a thing.

And thank you both, guys. It's good to get some congratulations. The few people I've told in meatspace have been super jazzed and supportive, but I'm dreading telling my parents.